BDSM – A Dark Art

Many years ago I started on a journey of sexual exploration. Being more of a lover than a fighter I have always wanted to please my partners and take them to places unknown. In my attempts to understand the motives and desires that drive me I pondered the question and found the answer staring me in the face – in fact the answer was in her face. I’m drawn to raw sexual energy and I enjoy nurturing it. Like a musician playing an instrument I take time to learn the cords, the notes, the rhythm and sound of intense pleasure channeled through a beautiful body and mind – set free.

With my insatiable desire to experience pleasures beyond the confines of the vanilla matrix I stumbled upon the beautiful dark art of BDSM. My experience is far removed from the stereotypes of abusive and emotionally challenged characters depicted by Hollywood’s mainstream interpretations like the now infamous 50 Shades of Grey. Each to their own but for me BDSM is one of the mediums which I use to embrace deep and intense sexual experiences.

I am naturally Dominant, not to be mistaken with ‘Domineering’ – I Dominate by consent and my aim is to take my sub to new places of ecstasy based on her most deepest fantasies by providing her with an environment where she is able to be truly free. Through BDSM I have learnt a new form of communication where we are able to freely describe to each other in glorious colour exactly what we want and how we want it. She submits to me under certain conditions and I take full responsibility for her whilst she is under my control. We establish her boundaries, how far she’ll allow me to push her, how she likes to be dominated, whether she wants me to spank her arse till it goes red, tie her up so she is unable to move, strangle her till she almost passes out, cum in her face or gently stroke her entire body with a feather light touch. We discuss everything and then I go about creating the most erotic script that we will play out between us during our session.

The script is specific and unique, tailored to her. I will detail the events of the entire session usually lasting 1.5 to 2.5 hours depending on the theme. I will detail every position and every act based on my knowledge of what will give her the most intense experience. I will include floggers, paddles, vibrators, rope, handcuffs, blindfolds, butt plugs, wax, various oils and anything else I need to create the perfect script for her.

This is a massive learning experience for both parties based on trust and a strong mutual desire to please the other. I have come to the realisation that for me, submission seems to flow both ways as we are bound in servitude to each other’s pleasure.

Whilst in session I assume the role of ‘Dominant’ and I carry this out to the fullest degree. What this means is that with the trust and responsibility placed in me I take her on a journey where she can completely let go and enjoy knowing that I have control of the situation. However this is far from Disney and things don’t always go according to plan. Sometimes I can push her to far, or not far enough. Sometimes she’ll try to test my authority when I’m breaking her in. Sometimes I’ll need to discipline her with force or sometimes I’ll need to give her a warm embrace. Sometimes I’ll fuck her like a dirty whore and sometimes I’ll pluck her gently like a delicate flower. Throughout this whole experience I’m learning how to tune in to her body and mind, I watch closely paying attention to her every response, her heart rate, breathing patterns, perspiration, involuntary nerve spasms, eye movement, crying, screaming, scratching, teeth grinding – any and everything that may come to the surface. I try to capture it all and use it to guide me like a compass as we explore this beautiful terrain of ‘Bondage, Dominance, Sadism & Masochism’ otherwise known as ‘B.D.S.M’

What we are dealing with here is the fight for sexual freedom. We are dealing with the confines of everyday life, the control of the Matrix, the shackles of expectation, the judgment of close-minded people and the inability to embrace our essence as sexual creatures. BDSM (as well as many other forms of self realisation) provides a doorway to a world where we can just ‘be’ – in the moment, in ourselves and in each other. It’s the intense connection and the raw sexual energy the way nature intended.

This is what I look for – but not all are suitable, in fact a good sub is exceptionally hard to find. She’s hard to find because you can’t create her, you can only help to unlock what is already buried deep inside.

This is my interpretation of the every elusive, shape shifting dynamics of BDSM embraced by a Deviant mind unplugged. Sex is mental.

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3 comments

  1. Ecnelis · February 15

    A beautifully twisted dynamic You’ve painted; to be admired in it’s earnest distinction. Truly. A sweet day to You.

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    • deviantunplugged · February 16

      Thanks Ecnelis, that’s a lovely comment, you’ve got an awesome blog name btw.

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      • Ecnelis · February 16

        You are very welcome, and thank You as well.

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